For the most part Pattaya bar girls are a bunch of happy, friendly, fun-loving girls. You will enjoy their company, and they will make a big impression on you. Don't get carried away though, and always remember that when you are in Pattaya you are in fantasy land. If you have never been to Pattaya before, I can almost guarantee that you will leave the place wondering if you have found your one true love, and you will almost certainly start planning your next trip to Pattaya before you have finished your current trip!
You should be aware that most things here are not quite as they might at first appear and this is especially true when it comes to romance with the ladies of Thailand. The online approach at a quality dating site is a safer option for meeting genuinely lovely girls. If you are going to be enjoying the nightlife of sin city, most of the Pattaya bar girls that you will undoubtedly meet there are experts at working their way into a man’s affections. If you get romantically involved with one of these ladies then, at some point, you’re going to have to ask yourself how likely it is that your new found love has really developed the affection for you that she will surely make you feel.
Is it really a coincidence that it just happens to be her game-plan to make her customers feel this way? Wait a moment I here you say, what game-plan am I talking about? Let me explain a little more about this...
Think about the typical salaries that the girls earn. Most work for a monthly income of no more than about 8,000 baht. Add to that their share of the lady drink mark-up and you are up to no more than 12,000 baht. Money from accompanying customers might bring in another 15,000 depending on the beauty of the girl (15,000 assumes one customer every 3 days averaged over the year) making a total income of about 27,000 baht per month. That's not bad compared to the lowest paid jobs, but it is still below the national average wage in Thailand.
Low-skilled work could bring in about 12,000 a month, so why choose a life of bar work? The answer is because there is another income stream to consider i.e. they can also be getting money sent to them from overseas by previous customers! These guys are commonly referred to as ‘sponsors’. Do NOT become a sponsor…. it’s a well trodden path with nothing but trouble along it! Many Pattaya girls are hoping to get involved with a Westerner that will 'sponsor' them. They might promise that a few thousand baht per month is all that they need to be able to stop their work and head back home to get a normal job and await your return. In reality, many girls will string along as many unsuspecting western boyfriends as they possibly can. It’s very unlikely that any realistic amount of money will be enough to make her stop her work in the sex trade. The more she earns, the more she will want!
If a girl can get half a dozen boyfriends (sponsors) sending them as little as 6,000 baht per month; that adds up to 36,000 baht on top of the 27,000 she earns herself. That's 63,000 baht per month in total, and many girls make a lot more than that. It is not uncommon for some girls to be receiving upwards of 30,000 each month from a single sponsor and still the girl continues working!
How exactly are these Pattaya girls going to lure these sponsors in? Simple, by pretending to fall hopelessly in love with them, and doing absolutely everything they can to make sure that the customer has as good a time with them as is possible. It's surprising how good they are at it. Don't misunderstand me though; if you are looking for a girl to stick with for a few days or more, you will most likely be better off with Pattaya bar girls rather than a gogo girl or with a Pattaya street girl. It is precisely because of the bar girl's game-plan that you will have the time of your life. I'm not suggesting that all of the girls are the same, a tiny minority are genuine, lovely and loyal girls…. and that's part of the problem! You won't know if you've found your dream girl, or if you've just been tricked into thinking you have! It really is best to play safe here, the number of girls with real long-term relationship potential are only a very small fraction of the total girls working in the bars.
Most Pattaya bar girls will cater for your every whim. They will take care of you in ways you won't expect. If you want to have a laugh with your drinking buddies, no problem, she'll sit patiently, and quietly, waiting for you. If you want her to join in with the laughter, she'll play along. You can find all sorts of girls too, even if you want chubby girls, there are a few Pattaya fat girls here and there! After you have finished your drinking session, and gone back to your hotel, your lady will happily indulge your every pleasure. When you have completed your task, you might feel like taking a shower before you sleep. If so, don't be surprised if, when you are done, she is waiting for you to step outside the bathroom so that she can dry you down with a towel! Whilst she is drying you, you will probably notice that all the clothes you threw on the floor are now neatly folded and put away. In short, Pattaya bar girls will make you feel that their only need in life is to be by your side where they can take care of all your needs. Enjoy the fantasy but don't let it go to your head, the chances are that it isn't real.
In the second half of the report, Pattaya Bar Girl part 2, I’ll try to save you some heartache by steering you away from bargirls as long term partners. There are better alternatives! As a quick heads-up, online dating is a better option if you are careful. Click here to see my recommended online Thai dating site.
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