There's no hiding it, the Pattaya girls are one of the biggest, if not the biggest, reasons why people come here. Yes, there are decent beaches, there is fantastic weather, there is tasty food etc etc, but it is the girls that really set Pattaya apart from all the rest. This section is really focused on info about how to meet girls in
bars, gogos, discos and so on.
If the bars and gogos scene is not for you, you can get
lots of action from online dating services. Thailovelines.com is the dating site that I personally recommend. The
girls you will meet online will be more than happy to meet up with you
and, unlike with working girls, you wont need to pay them!
Back to the working girls in Pattaya... it's not just the sheer number of these Thai girls, they have a genuinely friendlier attitude than the girls in Bangkok, Phuket and elsewhere.Pattaya girls prices are a lot lower too. The best looking girls in Bangkok or Phuket might expect anything from 3,000 to 5,000 baht or more per day for all their hard work. In Pattaya, 1,000 to 2,000 baht per day is the norm.
The majority of the girls in Pattaya come here, looking for work, from the poor rural northeast area of Thailand called Isaan (pronounced E-San). Isaan girls tend to be a little darker skinned than most Thais, and often have long black hair. It's up to your own personal preference as to whether or not you like your women to have darker or fairer skin but, in any case, don't worry as there are lots of girls to choose from. You will certainly find one that catches your eye. Out of an estimated 30,000 or so Pattaya girls working the nightlife bars, agogos, coyotes etc, there is no shortage of fairer skinned girls if that is what you like. You will even be able to find some Pattaya Russian girls, but you will have to pay a very hefty price for the privilege!
One thing that a lot of Pattaya girls have in common is a baby that's
being taken care of by their parents in their home towns. This is quite
a common thing and is often the reason why she is working in the oldest
of professions. Babies aren't cheap after all, and with an absent
father and expensive medical treatments, the money has to come from
To keep up with all the latest juicy bits of information, just enter an email address in the box below and, once per month or so, I'll send you my e-zine update.
Cultural differences with the West
with all Thai girls, Pattaya girls have some quite different cultural
values. Believe it or not, she will probably be quite shy! Thai girls
are not raised in a way that leads naturally to an outgoing extroverted
character. If you decide to spend some time with a Pattaya lady, and you
find her to be very outspoken, outgoing and confident, it's a sign that
she may have been working in a bar for a while, and gotten used to
liaising with westerners.
The shyness stems from Thailand actually being, believe it or not, a rather conservative country. Whilst there is some acceptance amongst Thai society that a bar-girl might be doing what she is doing out of necessity, e.g. to send money home to a poor family, it is certainly not seen as being anything other than the lowest of occupations. If you don't believe me on this, try taking a photograph of a girl performing on stage at an agogo bar! You will most likely be encouraged to switch off your camera right away. The girls working in such places tend to be very concerned that their pictures might find their way onto the internet and be seen by someone from their home-town. Every bar girl will want to keep her occupation a secret from the folk back home.
A few words of warning!
You need to really tread carefully with Pattaya girls. No matter how hard you try, these Thai beauties will work their magic and be tugging at your heart strings when the time comes to say goodbye. After your first week in Pattaya, you will most likely find one particular girl that you will spend the rest of your holiday with. Be especially careful here, she will probably want to see you off at the airport, and she will definitely have tears in her eyes when the two of you part company.
If you are the sort that can switch off your emotions, you're a lucky man. Drop me an email and let me know the secret! My general advice is to buy a telephone/sim card in Thailand on arrival, and bin it on departure. It makes for a nice clean break when you have thrown away your only means of contact.
Why would you want to end contact? Because as wonderful as your experience undoubtedly was, the chances are that it is best left in Thailand. Your girl's emotions may well have been genuine; they probably were if you felt they were, but the whole experience is based on a bit of a fantasy. Treat it for what it is and enjoy yourself. That's not to say that a full-time relationship or a marriage can't work, it can, but you do need to be aware of reality and make sure your girl's dreams are the same as yours, and that is not often the case.
Have a read of 'Private Dancer'
by Stephen Leather for an, albeit fictional, eye-opener. And, once
again, before getting serious with one girl, get plenty of experience in
spotting the little danger-signs in what they say. It's not that Pattaya girls are morally corrupt (although a life of bar
work will take its toll), it is necessity that is driving their
actions. This is especially true if she has poor parents, and a baby of
her own that needs taking care of, in her home town.
In Thailand, where there is not much of a welfare system, women take their family responsibilities extremely seriously indeed. Sacrificing their innocence in order to take care of the family is not a step that they want to take, it is a step that necessity sometimes demands. I think that's enough of the negative stuff! If you do find a girl in Pattaya that you want to start a relationship with, just tread carefully and take your time.
NOTE: One thing you need to make sure of is that you are staying in a 'girl friendly' hotel; I'm reliably informed that these hotels are all guest friendly:
Eastiny 7, Central Pattaya - from 1,000 baht per night
LK Metropole, Central Pattaya - from 1,400
Baywalk Residence, South Pattaya - from 1,700
Those links will take you to Agoda.com; they are a huge company in Asia and have a lowest price guarantee! I can confirm that their prices are the lowest I've found anywhere. You can check their latest hotel offers by clicking on the blue search button to the right.
Obviously people can't be put into boxes but, broadly speaking, there are five groups of working-girls in Pattaya (six if you include masseuses, but they are discussed in the 'massage' section). Each group of girls have their own unique strategies for making their work pay:
Pattaya Bar Girls Part 1 | Part 2
These ladies can be found working in a variety of different types of bars and, as you would expect, there is some difference in the approach that these girls will take with regard to bringing a smile to your face. Generally speaking though, there are some similarities in the type of relationship that you might build with these Pattaya girls. Click the first link to the first part of the report to find out more about bar girls. The second part goes on to point you in the direction of the nearest exit (if a long-term relationship is on your mind!). There are better long-term options to be found.
Pattaya Gogo Girl Part 1 | Part 2
want to know what to expect from a Gogo girl? Click the link to find out how the financial strategy of Pattaya gogo girls differs to that of other working girls. This page will tell you all you need to know about the girls, and what type of experience they will likely offer to you. The report continues with a look at the advantages and disadvantages of choosing to spend a bit of quality time with a gogo girl.
Pattaya Beach Girl; beach girls are one of two groups of working girls commonly referred to as 'freelancers'. They may, or may not, be working entirely under their own steam. Some have a male 'guardian' that will need to be dealt with (paid).
Nightclub Girls Pattaya Part 1 | Part 2
If you are getting a little sick and tired of the condescending attitude from Western girls, the girls that you will meet in a Pattaya nightclub might be just what the doctor ordered! These girls are almost certainly working completely alone. They are often full-time students, or even girls with regular low-paid work, who need an income top up. These Pattaya girls tend to work less often, and sometimes just on weekends.
Pattaya Escort Girls; the key selling point for these Thai call girls is discretion. They will happily cater for a wide range of clients and fantasies. Prices are higher, but the services tend to be more high-end in terms of quality. They are popular with couples and with disabled clients.
Pattaya Escorts and Long-Term Happiness; this page offers my guidance about how to enjoy the single-life in Pattaya and what sort of men it tends to suit.
This is a three-part case study of a Pattaya bar girl called Duan and her life. It explains Duan's situation, what motivates her, her problems, and what you should expect from her if you were to become her customer.
Sexy Pattaya Bargirls Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3
The first part of the 'story of Duan' begins with a description of Duan and what your likely first impressions of her would be. The report continues with a look at the single most common reason why Pattaya bargirls have chosen the work that they have, i.e. because of family commitments. It concludes with some description of the typical relationships that develop between a bargirl and a farang tourist. It also looks at where that farang usually ranks in the girl's list of priorities!
Return from Pattaya Girls to Pattaya Adventures homepage