Thai girls have got a chequered reputation when it comes to their romantic liaisons with us Western men. I don’t think that I’m going to make too many front-page ‘breaking news’ columns by pointing out that there are a lot of failed romances between Thai ladies and foreigners, but I don’t think that there is enough publicity into the detail of how these relationships start, how they develop, or how they unravel.
Similarly, the dating success stories out there get very little publicity, and more than a few people behave as though there is no such thing as an honest, decent Thai girl worthy of your trust. This is nonsense of course; the main problem with dating Thais is not that they are all no good; it’s that they all come from a very different culture that is not easy to acclimatise to.
My recommended dating site in particular is an excellent resource to start searching for Thai girls from the right side of the track, but I’ve also mentioned before that there are dangers there too; there are plenty of gold-diggers looking for their next victim online and you should take your time before identifying your next sweetheart. Regardless of the possible pitfalls, online dating is a good way to at least get some experience under your belt. You’ll have no trouble getting dates and more if you sign-up; many success stories started this way.
I’m going to publish lots of true stories; stories that are not written by me but by the Thai expat community. If you want to get an idea of what dating Thai girls is all about then there is no better way than to hear it straight from the words of those that have done that and got the T-shirt. In these stories you’ll find the full range of tales, both successes and failures, with all sorts of different ladies. However, I’m not going to publish them on this site – my dedicated site about Thai girls is a better fit, and you can find it here: ThaiGirlsGuru.com
A point that is worth mentioning, if you are considering romance with a Thai lady, is that whilst the women you can read about in my section about Pattaya Girls are NOT suitable for long-term relationships, the Thai girls you will read about on my other site may or may not be suitable, depending on the particular story. Unfortunately, many men still fall into the bar-girl trap of donating their entire life-savings to a girl half their age, and then starting a new life as a reclusive debt-ridden shadow of their former selves! I'd avoid this if I were you as it's not much fun.
You’ll see from the stories that there are many successful long-term relationships that have started online, but the best route to success with Thai women is by meeting them the way that you would meet any other girl e.g. friends of friends, or via the workplace. Sadly, that isn’t going to be an option for you if you don't live in Thailand, but it is the best method if it is available to you.
I mentioned that the stories involve lots of different sorts of Thai girls and that’s another important factor to think about; there is a lot of cultural variety within Thailand just as there is in most countries. It’s not just that there is a very significant class structure that separates rich from poor, there are also big differences in the way of life between, for example, rural girls and city girls. Depending on your own preferences you’ll want to learn as much as you can about these things and, once again, nothing will help you to do that better than reading some true stories from other westerners.
At some point in your journey towards romance with a Thai girl, you are going to need to pick up a solid grasp of Thai dating culture and what will be expected from you were you to go the whole nine yards and get married. If you don’t get a good idea of what married life entails, you’ll constantly be jumping to the wrong conclusions and falling out with your wife. Most of us westerners put far too much trust in the idea that what comes naturally to us as common sense must also be deemed common sense to a Thai – it often doesn’t! This is a major cause of relationship meltdown, your western instincts will be off, and your western sense and sensibilities will be alien.
Worse still is that most Thais know far less about western culture and values than we know about Thai culture and values. When you find yourself baffled by your girl’s seemingly insane behaviour, it pays to remind yourself that what you are witnessing probably stems from a cultural misunderstanding. It also pays to bear in mind that your Thai girlfriend will most likely think that some of your behaviour is downright odd… such is the nature of cross culture relationships. That said, check out my recommended dating site to start your dating journey.
If you would like to send in your own story about Thai girls, you can do so via the box below. I will review it within a few days and get it posted on ThaiGirlsGuru.com. Please note that submissions need to be at least 800 words in length, and 1200+ is preferred. I can’t guarantee that your story will be published; there are certain types of story that I can’t accept i.e. sex reports, but I hope that this will not deter you from writing in.
Many thanks in advance for any submissions that you do take the time to send in. It is the input and perspectives of lots of different people that I believe will really keep this website fresh and interesting.
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