Thai girls have got a bad reputation when it comes to their romantic liaisons with us western men. I don’t think that I’m going to make too many front-page ‘breaking news’ columns by pointing out that there are a lot of failed romances between Thai ladies and foreigners, but a lot of the hype is untrue.
There is not nearly enough publicity into the detail of how these relationships start, how they develop, or how they unravel.
Similarly, the dating success stories out there get very little publicity, and more than a few people behave as though there is no such thing as an honest, decent Thai girl who is worthy of your trust.
This is nonsense of course; the main problem with dating Thais is not that they are all no good, it’s that they all come from a very different culture that is not easy to understand or acclimate to.
My recommended dating site in particular is an excellent resource to start searching for Thai girls from the right side of the track, but I’ve also mentioned before that there are dangers there too; there are plenty of gold-diggers looking for their next victim online and you should take your time before identifying your next sweetheart.
Regardless of the possible pitfalls, online dating is a good way to at least get some experience under your belt. You’ll have no trouble getting Thai girls to go out on a date with you if you sign-up and take your time - many success stories started this way.
I’m going to publish lots of true stories - stories that are not written by me but by the western guys who have had romantic relationships with Thai girls. If you want to get an idea of what dating in Thailand is all about then there is no better way than to hear it straight from the words of those that have done that and got the T-shirt.
In these stories you’ll find the full range of tales, both successes and failures, with all sorts of different ladies. Many of them will be based on experiences with exactly the wrong sort of women, because so many relationships get started this way...
A word of warning - the ladies that you can read about in my Pattaya Girls section are a LOT of fun but they are NOT suitable for long-term relationships. Compared to the Thai girls that you will read about here, some might be suitable for your trust but others will not, depending on the particular circumstances.
Unfortunately, many men still fall into the bar-girl trap of donating their entire life-savings to a girl half their age, and then starting a new life as a reclusive debt-ridden shadow of their former selves! I'd avoid this if I were you as it's not much fun.
The best route to success with Thai women is by meeting them in the way that you would meet any other girl e.g. friends of friends, or via the workplace. Sadly, that isn’t going to be an option for you if you don't live in Thailand, but the online sites are a useful backup option for guys outside of Thailand.
There are tens of thousands of Thai girls searching for romantic adventures with western men online. You can easily find good-looking girls for casual sex and fun times, or someone suitable for something more serious on my:
As a general rule of thumb, it's a lot safer to go looking for romance
away from the main tourist areas as the girls there are much less likely to
be working as prostitutes! With that said, there are also differences within those areas:
Okay, this is the part where you might expect me to start ripping into western ladies... but I'll only go so far as to criticize a minority of them - albeit a significant minority.
I'm referring to the latest batch of entitled little princesses who think that their nether regions are sacrosanct, and that any man whom they grace with access to it should immediately mimic some sort of emotional support dog for all of their bullshit!
Having 'issues' seems to have become quite fashionable amongst some ladies, and I don't believe that modern feminism is helping them at all. Hating men seems to be at the core of that dogmatic garbage, and what sort of man would want to be in a relationship with a woman who subscribes to it? The answer is beta-males and guys who don't realise that there are better options.
Let me reiterate, I'm only referring to a minority of western girls here, most of them are lovely people. Unfortunately though, by a certain age the sane ones have usually been snapped up and are happily married. A large proportion of the ladies that remain come with serious baggage, and unrealistic ideas about their future partners.
The reality is that Hugh Grant and Colin Firth are not going to be punching themselves out to be with these ladies anytime soon - no matter what Bridget Jones' Diary would have them believe. If you lack the sex appeal of these Hollywood superstars (not to mention the financial resources) you might easily be deemed unworthy.
Thai girls are the perfect antidote to these western feminist nut-jobs. If you take your time and choose wisely, you'll not only find countless ladies in Thailand who will happily satisfy all of your lustful desires, you'll also find some ultra-sweet and feminine ladies who will appreciate you for what you are.
For the uninitiated, you could be forgiven for thinking that Thai bar girls all have the same agenda and the same modus operandi. They do almost invariably have the same end goal i.e. making money, but they differ by a wide margin in terms of how they go about acquiring that money.
All the usual caveats apply to these generalizations, not everyone is the same and so on, but keep in mind that money and the accumulation of it is nearly always what makes Thai bar girls tick. With that in mind, it's not hard to see why the generalizations above are a useful guideline on what to expect for the time being at least.
Things are changing though, and what was once a fairly unregulated industry is changing rapidly. The Thai authorities are cracking down a lot of the pay for play industry where once it was more or less ignored. Only time will tell what the future holds.
On a similar note, be careful what you film in Thailand. We've all got cameras on our phones these days and filming harmless simulated acts of pleasure in a way that no one would bat an eyelid at in the west can land you in hot water in Thailand if it gets online. Needless to say, posting film online of the real thing would be far worse!
There is a lot more cultural variety within Thailand than in most western countries. It’s not just that there is a very significant class structure that separates rich from poor, there are also big differences in the way of life between, for example, rural girls and city girls. Depending on your own preferences you’ll want to learn as much as you can about these things as possible and for that I'd advise you to have a read of my Thai Dating Section.
At some point in your journey towards romance with a Thai girl, you are going to need to pick up a solid grasp of the culture and what will be expected from you were you to go the whole nine yards and get married.
If you don’t get a good idea of what married life entails, you’ll constantly be jumping to the wrong conclusions and falling out with your wife. Most of us westerners put far too much trust in the idea that what comes naturally to us as common sense must also be deemed common sense to a Thai – it often doesn’t!
Misunderstandings are a major cause of relationship meltdown, your western instincts will be off, and your western sense and sensibilities will be alien.
Worse still is that most Thais know far less about western culture and values than we know about Thai culture and values...
When you find
yourself baffled by your girl’s seemingly insane behaviour, it pays to
remind yourself that what you are witnessing probably stems from a
cultural misunderstanding. It also pays to bear in mind that most Thai girls will likely think that some of your behaviour is
downright odd… such is the nature of cross culture relationships.
If you've read through the whole page then hopefully I've gone some way to expanding your knowledge on the scope of options that are available to you with Thai girls and the different sorts of experiences that you can have with them. I think that the main points to emphasize are that:
There are no doubt some things that other long-term visitors will disagree with and I'd encourage you to write in if that's the case for you. I'm not sitting in my ivory tower here handing down unalterable truths written in stone about Thai girls. I'm happy to publish your opinions if they are well-written and of sufficient depth (1,000 words or more). If that idea appeals, you can reach me via the contact link at the bottom of the page.
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